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Hey, I read something today that made a lot of sense to me and I think it'll help many others so I decided to share it. It's culled from the writer's website. "A Recently Married Guy Discovers: MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR YOU"   Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.  Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for  ten years  until…until we decided no longer wanted to be  just  friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all. Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy? ...

Yeah.... That's exactly how I feel; stuck... Don't know what to say that will make sense... Heck, can't even string them words together to even align... I've been lying here tossing and turning Rising and falling back in bed seeking answers or are they all just questions, my thoughts? I'm supposed to be in church but I'm seated on the edge of the bed Assimilating a lengthy note left me by my wife Issues of intimacy; hold me, don't hold me.... When does a hold me turn sour? At those moments, does it matter what I want? How does it all work out? Where is the line between what the man is going through and meeting her needs? He has a lot of things bombarding his mind, eyes, ears and even his nose Work, family, ministry, finances, relationships, detractors, devils.... Oh, how they appear, plenty How does he work it all and yet satisfy all the varied demands? Please don't misunderstand me My thoughts don't wander far from me and all th...

It's been a long while since I came here.... Today however, I came in possession of a write-up from a dear friend of mine I think is worth sharing:  ME AND MY MAIGAD (SECURITY MAN) Im a born again, tongue speaking, Holy ghost filled Christian from the Middle Belt extract, and my security man is a full 5 times praying, chasbi reading devoted Muslim from the Core North, Kebbi State to be precise, his name is Hassan. I believe if there is one committed, dedicated, hard working and calm Hausa man I have ever met, it will be Hassan. Petit in size yet tough on the inside. In the last two years I have lived in this house, Hassan became the number 9 security guy we were employing, cos I have a very troublesome neighbor who made life difficult for all the others that came before him, the longest they have stayed is 1 month. Yet Hassan has been here for 6 months and still looks strong. I have come to bond with him to a place of trust, that I can leave the keys to my house ...

There are two days in every week that we should not worry about, two days that should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One is yesterday with its mistakes and cares. Its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. Nor can we erase a single word we've said. Yesterday is gone. The other day we shouldn't worry about is tomorrow. With its impossible adversaries, its burden, its hopeful promise and poor performance. Tomorrow is beyond our control. Tomorrow's sun will rise either in splendor, or behind a mask of clouds but it will rise. And until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is yet unborn. This leaves only one day. Today. Any person can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when we add the burdens of yesterday and tomorrow that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad, ...

The piece below is culled from worship.com website... Fish in a Flood Where do fish go in a flood? Are they swept away to sure destruction? How do they survive? One conservation specialist says that many fish go deep into the river to sit on the bottom where the current is least strong--the muddy, opaque water concealing them. Some simply adjust to go with the flow, enduring the stress but with only short-term storm effects. While not everyone experiences a watery flood in his or her lifetime, similar devastation comes into the lives of everyone. A previously healthy, active child is suddenly diagnosed with cancer. The well-planned career is snatched away without warning. An executive found helpless against a stroke attack. Divorce unexpectedly shatters a family. Where does the Christian go in a flood? Many of us have learned to go "deep into the river to sit on the bottom." We cannot avoid the swirling tempest, but we get into the quiet space with Go...

Hey, greetings to you. I got this from a friend and thought I'd share it with you. I said a friend, but this friend is actually a couple. They've had to go thru some grey, maybe dark spots but some how, by God's grace they stand. So here is the excerpt about confrontation: Relationships: REALITY CHECKS FOR CONFRONTATION   "What men fear most is criticism and rejection. That doesn't mean that you    can't tell him anything --you can. But you have to see if how you're    doing it is working or not." (Dr. Phil McGraw)   "Maybe you won't get through to the other person as long as you keep    approaching him the way you always do." (Michael Nichols)   Confronting each other when we have a problem can be most difficult,    because if we don't do it right we can make the situation even worse than    before.   That's why one of our dear friends calls confrontation in a relationship,    such as marriage, "CARE-frontation," ...

A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hanging the wash outside. 'That laundry is not very clean', she said. 'She doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap' Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments. About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: 'Look, she has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder whtaught her this?' The husband said, 'I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows.' And so it is with life. What we see when watching others sometimes depends on the purity of the window through which we look. Let's be a little bit more patient with those around us; sometimes, even accept them as they are, not from your perception of them.....it...